Tuesday, September 4, 2007

Trust Response: Writing One

On a scale of 1-10, to what extent do you trust the people around you? Briefly explain your answer by responding to the questions below:

· Do you completely trust your friends? Your family? Your teachers?
· Do you think they would ever betray you? If so, why and how?
· Could you ever betray them?
· What types of situations make people betray others?

54 comments:

melissaz said...

On a scale of 1-10 i think i trust my friends and family at about an 8 or 9, 10 being completly trustworthy and 1 meaning I can't trust them at all. I can trust each friend with a different capacity, with different information. I have so many friends and some of them I feel most comfortable telling them one thing, but not another and vise versa with other friends. It's not that i don't trust them, I just feel less comfortable telling them certain things. Besides having a division of what I feel comfortable telling my friends, I also have, I guess you could call it, a system. I have friends that I feel so close to and can tell them most everything, so they are on the top "shelf". Then I have friends that I enjoy being around and can trust to a certain extent, but not with everything (the info. they get from me is some-what limited), so they are on the "middle shelf". And then there are those friends that are fun to be with and I may tell them about certain aspects of my life, but they definitally are not at the top, these friends are on the "bottom shelf". I feel I can trust my family with pretty much everything, they are so helpful when I need advice and excited when I am, it makes telling them things so easy. I don't think, at least I would hope, that they would never betray me. Not a single person in my family would betray me, at least that I know of. The people I surround myself with are not the kind of people that would even think of betraying anyone, and I am pretty good at "reading" people and their personalities. I would never betray anyone, I feel that it is such a low and poor blow to anyone that I would never want to think about it! I would, maybe, if I was in a life or death situation for my family where that would be the only way to protect them, but that would be the most extreme situation. I think one of the main situations that cause people to betray, is peer pressure. People tend to do stupid thing when they are pressured by "so-called" friends.

amandah said...

It’s hard for me to put a scale on my trust because it really depends who I'm talking about. For example, my two best friends and my immediate family I trust fully, or ten. Friends, I trust to a certain extent like seven or eight. My extended family can be pretty dishonest at times and so I also trust them to a certain extent. I trust my relatives at about a seven or an eight. I trust my teachers around six or seven. I've had some bad experiences with trust and I don't give mine very freely.
I don't think my parents or my brother would ever betray me because we are family and that means a lot to all of us. My best friends would never do that to me because they are like my family and we're really close. My other friends might but I don't think they're the kind of people that would do that to me but I'm still cautious. I don't think my teachers would betray me because they're there to help. I have had teachers in the past that I haven't trusted and they've betrayed me by losing a paper of mine and have stated that they never got in the first place when I knew I turned it in.
I would never betray any of them. This also depends on what my family, friends, and teachers consider being betrayed. They may think that I betrayed them when I don't think that I did.
Situations that make other people betray each other would probably include situations where there is something better than what they have. For example, someone would betray someone else because they wanted something better or something else. Another situation could be someone using someone else to get something.

whitneys said...
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morgant said...

On a scale of 1-10, I trust my family at a 10. My friends right now, I completely trust. I also completely trust my family and my teachers. I highly doubt that my friends, family, or my teachers would betray me. I could never betray anyone. That's just not me. I can't even imagine doing it. I hate it when other people do it to me, so I would never do it. I have had my share of friends that betrayed me. I didn't like it. My advice to that, is drop them like a hot potato! It kind of depends which friends we are talking about. Some people that are my friends, I can't really trust. I just don't really want to tell them things if you know what I mean. There are many types of situations that make other people betray their friends. Sometimes, they are just using you or taking you for advantage. Sometimes they are insecure or don't even want to be your friend. I agree with melissaz when she says that peer pressure can influence that. That can be a huge factor. Well, there you go, that is my answer.

mattw said...

I agree with Melissa how she said that you can trust different friends with different things or with different capacities, because I'm not as close with some of my friends as with others. Personally, on a scale of 1-10, my trust level would a 6 or 7, because there are somethings that I wouldn't tell anybody. I think "trust" is more than just believing somebody will do something they promised, or if they can keep a secret. I think it also means how close you are with that person. For example; if one person were to tell a friend everything about themselves, but the other would not tell anything about them, then I don't think you can call it trust. I think it's more of one person won't shut up or the other is to shy.
I think to trust someone, you need to let them know personal things about you, even if it's embarassing. I have a six on the "scale" because I am slightly paranoid. I never tell one person everything. I might tell some things to one friend, and some other personal stuff to another, even if I trust them the same.
However, I never let somebody know what my really personal stuff is, because in a fight, all the trust would be lost.
I think I trust the teachers the least, because I'll only know them for about a year, and never talk to them again. THey always say "You can talk to me", but I don't. I trust them enough to grade my work and keep things confidential, and sometimes they trust their students enough to tell them things about their life. I think my trust level would have to be a 4 or 5.
My trust level with my parents is probably about 5 or 6, because I just don't like to talk about pesonal stuff with my mom.... But thats only with information, because otherwise I would trust them 10 out of 10, because we're a family and et cetera.

whitneys said...

I woudl say that I generally trust people about a 6. I give my trsut freely if i blieve that you will keep it, but if you do something to break it, it will be a hard climb to regain it. I trust God, my parents, and my best friend the most out of anyone in my life. They are defiantely a TEN! I don't think that they would ever betray me EVER. Tha majority of the rest of my fmaily I would trust about a 9, I can't tell them everything but I know that they have my back and would never betray me no matter what. However, there is a part of my family that I really don't trust at all and that I know has betrayed me. As for my other friends, I trust them all yes, but there are different levels of trust for eahc one. I have gotten to know some of them and I know that I should never tell some of them certain things because they would probably betray me by going and gossiping about me to other people. But the majority of my friends I trust about a 7 on the trustingscale. I hope that I would NEVER EVER betray anyone that I know because I know how horrible it feels to be betrayed. But I know that i have gossiped, which is one of the simplest and easiest way to betray somone. But I try SOOO hard not to.
I think that they kind of people who mostly betray you are either the ones who know EVERYTHING abotu you because they have so much information to betray you with or to help them betray you, or the people who know you, but aren't your best friends, because they don't know you well enough to understand why you do things or how much them betraying you would hurt you. The situations in which these people might betray you are if you are in a power struggle or in a lust for power, wealth, notability. Also if either you have hurt or betrayed them and they betray you inturn or they have been betrayed by someone else and are taking it out on you. Further it could a person cuold betray you because they are trying to get to someone else through you. In genreal people betray other people because they want something or are hurt themselves.

Louiseb said...

I do completely trust my family, my close friends, and most of my teachers unless they have given me a legitimate reason not to trust them. So, on a scale they would be a 9 or a 10. However there are some friends that I know to be gossips and therefore I don’t trust them quite as much, they would be rated a 4 or 5. I think that the only time that any of my family or my current friends would betray me would be in a situation where I was putting myself in danger. If I was planning to do something bad my friends and family would betray my trust, but only to keep my actions under control, and I would always do the same for them. I have had my share of friends that have betrayed me and lied to me and on a scale of trust there I would have to say 1 or 2. I think that people betray others in situations where they feel threatened or attacked. If someone hears that you were saying bad things about them behind their back, they may feel entitled to do the same to you. It is sort of a form of peer pressure that makes people that if they are put down, they have to do the same in order to remain and equal.

BrianC said...

On a scale of 1-10, I’d say I trust my parents and myself 10, my siblings an 8 or 9, and my best friend 8. I trust my teachers to teach me the right things and not lie to me but I probably wouldn’t trust them more than a 6, after all, they are almost strangers to me. I don’t think that they would ever betray me in any great way such as spreading lies so I don’t get a job, but they might betray me in small amounts, even without knowing. I could never knowingly betray my friends and family because it would me too much on my conscience but I, too, might unknowingly betray them. Situations that could make someone betray another are things like they’re telling a story about the person and the accidentally add something or they could betray them to make themselves look cool to others or, like in the books, they could be tortured into betrayal.

amyw said...

I agree with what brianc said about trusting your parents and yourself with a 10. Everyone else in my life, I probably trust a 7 or 8 because they always have the chance to betray you, and they aren't related to you so it may come easier. It's much easier to trust people that you're related to. That said, the same probably goes for me. Nobody is perfect. If a person shows me that they deserve my trust, this will change, but if they are backstabbing and show that they can't be trusted, they may even go lower on the scale. People betray others when their reputation is at stake, or when something better (in their eyes) comes along.

chelseas said...

On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest, and 1 being the lowest, I rate different people in different ways. I rate different friends in different ways. My close and best friends I would probably rate at about an 8. They are the ones who share everything with me, and I can trust them. We all trust one another, and share things equally. Then there are my other friends who I still do things with, but I don’t tell them everything. I would probably rate them at about a 5. I have other friends, rated at about 3 who are really fun to be with, but they just “blab” too much, and I’m afraid that they might spill something. As for family, I would rate them all at a 10. I know that they will never betray me or tell my secrets. Although we may get mad at each other, we will always forgive each other in the end. They are always excited to hear about me and me about them. With friends, you know how it is, some are only “fair weather friends”, and they might not be able to be trusted when times get rough. I think that I also rate my teachers differently, too. Some you automatically bond with and others seem to hate you from the very first class. I can probably trust most of my teachers, because most of them care about you, and what’s going on in your life. I would probably rate most of mine at a 6.5. Some are higher, and some are lower, though. Friends might betray you when times get rough, when you meet new people, and because of peer pressure. When you meet new people, old friends can tend to get jealous, and peer pressure can to make people do just about anything for attention or popularity. I am not the type of person to betray others. I won’t tell anyone if I am angry at a friend, I will just forget about it. This is how I rate people around me.

Tylerg! said...

Trusting people is a very tough thing. Because no matter how much you know someone they can always betray you for their own benefit. I trust myself with a 9, my parents 8, my siblings 6, my friends 8, my teachers/ others 7. I am a very open person, so many people know many things about me, so this probably means I do have more trust, but I still know that at any point anyone copuld turn on me and tell others my secret.

KatherineM said...

On a scale of 1-10, I trust my parents and family at a nine or ten. I'd say my best friends are close to a ten as well. Some friends would be at a six or seven, because I don't feel as comfortable with them, and some friends I've had could not keep a secret if their life depended on it. My teachers would probably be at a six, just because I don't personally know them. I don't think my family would ever betray me. I would hope that my friends would never betray me, I have had that happen before, and it's horrible. I try not to befriend people who are not trustworthy and seem like they would betray me. I would never purposely betray anyone. Everyone makes mistakes, and I might do or say something that could be offensive to someone, but I do my very best to make sure I never betray my friends and family. Situations involving peer pressure are situations that could make you betray someone.

jhall said...

Well, I ahve a lot of great people in my life-my immidiate family, some real close friends, and even a few teachers. But I do believe that just like everyone else, there are people that are in your life that you just can't trust. I have a couple aquaintances I try to steer clear of, but sometimes there are situations where you cannot, and you know that they could "betray" you or tell someone, for example, a secret you trusted them with, or really anything else. But I think it's pretty much black or white. Either you betray people or you don't. In my mind there's not really a "mid-ground". I'm not one of the people who would betray a friend, family member, or even a teacher. So, I just try to stay away from they "betrayers" in life- and because of that I've not had any big problems with betrayal.

catem said...

When it comes to trust, I normally trust most people I meet completely until they prove I shouldn't trust them. Just like whitneys said, I fully trust "God, my parents, and my best friend the most out of anyone in my life". I would change it to my best friendS though because all of those people in my life have earned a trust level of 11 in my opinion. A couple of my "friends" have done some things to make me not trust them, so they are probably around a 5. As for teachers i trust them in a different way. For instance i probably wouldn't go up to my teacher and tell them that I was having a bad day. I trust my teachers to be fair, keep grades between the teacher and the student (not the class), keep academic and ocassionaly life problems secret, and to teach to the best of their ability. Until they don't acomplish one of these things they deserve a 10. And then there is betrayal. I wish I could say that I have never experienced betrayal, but that would be untruthful. I think some people especially in highschool are willing to betray their friends, and sometimes even their family in order to make themselves seem more "cool". I know that my very close friends and family could never betray me and I could never betray them unless it involved a situation where people could put themselves in danger. Some of my other "friends" though I know would betray me in a second in order to make themselves seem more wonderful. Around those people I am just careful what I say and do. So that pretty much covers my thoughts on trust.

morganw said...

I agree with Matt W - to me, trust isn't so much about telling secrets and personal information as it is knowing that they will follow up on their word and not let you down. On a scale on one to ten I would say my family and my best friend as a ten, my other good friends would be nines, mostly because there is some stuff that I would be hesistent to share with them, but I do trust them. My teachers I would put at a six or seven. I trust my teachers, but I don't know them all that well, so I wouldn't trust them with secrets or too much personal information, but overall I think teachers are very trustworthy and are there to help mentor us as well as teach us. I know for a fact that my parents and best friend would never ever betray me, it's possible that some of my other friends might, but I doubt it. Teachers, well, I guess it would depend on the teacher. But I do think that they would be more likely to betray me than a friend. I couldn't ever betray my parents or best friend. If my options were to betray those closest to me or be killed I would honestly choose death. If that was the option with friends, I probably wouldn't betray them either. Again, it would depend on the teacher and my relationship with that teacher, but I'd be more willing ot betray a teacher than a friend. Situations where peoples' motives are put in question can lead to people getting betrayed. Also, if there's money or some kind of reward (selfish) people might betray someone else in order to get that reward. situations where it is self interest vs. the interest in the well-being of others often leads to betrayal.

kristinah said...

On a scale of 1-10 I would rate my family and my teachers a 10 because I don't think that they would every betray me; they just arn't that kind of people. I trust my family with everything and my teachers would have no reason to betray me. A lot of times I have a hard time telling teachers personal things, not because I don't trust them, but because I don't know them very well. When I have known a teacher for a while then I can go talk to them about personal maters. With my friends, some of them are on the top portion of the scale, the ones that I can talk to about everything and can go to if I just need someone to be with me or to talk to me and others are in the middle where I will tell them some things but not things that are really personal because I am not sure if they will go tell someone else or not, like maybe they have a big, loose mouth or something like that. A lot of general friends are on the bottom because I know a ton of people that I like to hang out with and have fun with but would not tell them any of my personal matters because I am not that familiar with them. The only people that I think may betray me are the friends at the bottom of the scale. But, I usually have a pretty good judge of character but occationally people will be faking it and I don't really know who they really are. The only way that they might betray me is by spreading a rumor about me, gossiping about me, or telling other people things that I told them not to tell anyone. I can't ever imagine betraying my friends. I would feel sooo bad for sooo long. I would feel like I could never make it up to them. Friendship and trust is a huge part of my life that I think is really important to keep stong because without friends there is less fun, laughter, joy, and other things too that are really important in life. Usually the situations that make people betray others in when there is pressure from other peers.

ryanm said...

I can trust my most friends with a lot of things. although i cant trust them with everything. I can trust my dad more than any other person on the earth. the rest of my family(with the exception of my brothers) i can trust with most things. I can trust my teachers with a lot of information, I just dont tell them everything. I think some of my friends are defiatley able to betray me, but they are my friends because they dont betray me. I could betray them, but i wouldnt ever think about doing it. It's just not me to want to hurt other people for my gain. Some situations that people could want to betray people would be....like, if you know someone is talking about you behind your back, and they are planning to betray you, then you might want to betray that person.

hannahl said...

I believe that I am about a 9 at trusting most people. Close freinds are a ten, family is definately a solid 11, and teachers are usually a 10 unless something trust shattering occurs. I trust all my friends, my family, and my teachers. I have never really had many problems with betrayel, but if someone did betray me, I would probably assume that they were right and that I had somehow triggered the betrayel. That is because I tend to better deal with things if I know it was something I did. However, if a freind does betray me, it takes a while to regain my trust. I don't believe in betrayel, but I guess you would have to talk to one of my freinds to see if I do betray people. I don't think I do though. And, I would never ever ever purposfully betray someone, because I believe that every human feeling is worth something. I think most people use betrayel as a form of revenge or as a means of recieving attention. They either want to hurt someone who has hurt them by betrayel, or they want to do something to get noticed.

stephenf said...

On a scale of 1-10, 1 being the worst and 10 being the best, i wpuld give most of my friends an 8 and my family a 9. Teachers I think are very easy to trust but it's hard to actually think of trusting. It's not something you usually think of when you deal with a teacher. I would probably give most of my teachers an 7. I don't think I can completely trust anyone group or friend at a time. Some things I only trust my parents, friends, or teachers with. I think my friends or teachers would be more willing to betray them but it would definently depend on the situation. I think if bribery was involved and I had shared a really big secret with them they might betray but not likely.

I think I could end up betraying my friends but it would have to be a very weighted situation and no possible outlet. I think any level of money , greed,life, death, love anything that causes temptation. I think all of these things could lead to betrayel.

alyssas said...

I say that I would trust my friends and family about an eight. I know that I can trust certain people with certain things and situations, but at the same time I know who not to trust in those same situations. I don't completly trust anybody and I don't really know why. I guess that I just know that anyone can betray you, even the people you tusted the most because I have seen it happen before. I don't think the people around me would betray me, but I know that they can so I am cautious about who to entrust. At the same time, I could do the same and betray them. I wouldn't ever want to hurt someone but I could by telling something that they didn't want me to or doing something that they had previously expressed negative feelings about. Other situations that I think people would betray each other in are situations where power or money is involved. Just like a tragic hero, everybody has their downfall and for most people it is greed. When people want something bad enough, they will do anything to get it, even if that entails going against their beliefs.

MollyS said...

I have always had a connection with my family that I don't with anyone else, I have never worried about any of them betraying me, so there is no doubt that i trust them with all my heart (thats a 10).

When it comes to my friends I have more trouble trusting non-related people because there just isn't the same type of relationship with them. At the end of the day, you wont have to go home and be with your friends, while your family is forever. I've been betrayed in the past by friends, and I will in the future, so I would rank my trust of them at a 5.

I trust my teachers with at least a 9 because I know they are on my side, and sometimes, they understand things you are going through, because thats what they are there for.

I can never see my family or teachers betraying me, but like I said, some friends just don't care enough not to betray you. The same is true vice versa, even about the friends. Sometimes I just don't think my actions through enough, and I tell secrets i shouldn't or re-told a story that probably shouldn't have been repeated, but at the end of the day, I cant fathom betraying the people I love, and that love me.

The only time people betray others is when they are angry or around people they want to impress. I admit to betraying people under these conditions and that, I truly regret.

maddief said...

I think that trust is something that is gained. It is easier to rely on someone that you have known for a long time. This could be in a good or bad way. For example, you can always trust your best friend to be nice and caring towards you. But you can also trust someone who hates you to treat you in a negative manner. Really, trust can go either way.

To be honest, I don't completely trust anyone. Sometimes, I feel like I can't even trust myself on how I'm going to react to something. People are too unpredictable; that's what makes us human. I know that even those that I trust can betray me, and might. It just depends on what you're trusting them with. If you tell your friend that you're doing drugs, in order to help you, they might betray your secret and tell someone, like your parents or a teacher. If my friend was trusting me with a secret that was dangerous for them, I don't know what I would do. I'd want my friend to be safe, but I'd also want to remain loyal to them and keep their trust.

Aside from telling secrets to protect loved onees, people sometimes betray others just to be spiteful or mean; to get revenge.

alexf said...

Well, on a scale from one to ten, ten being totally trustworthy, I would have to say that I trust my family with a ten, my friends a nine to a six, and my teachers about an eight. I completely trust my family because we are very close and I tell them everything that I may not be able to tell my friends. The reason I only trust my friends at a level of nine to six is because I’ve seen how people can crack under pressure. Strangely (I’ll even admit it), if I don’t know someone very well, I tend to trust them more because they have given me no reason not to. My very close friends I can trust at a level of about nine, and those friends of mine that tend to gossip and share secrets, I trust only at a level of six. I do trust my teachers because I know that they have grown out of the adolescent stage (most anyways :P). I would hope that my family, friends, and teachers would never betray me, but I do know that there is always pressure and that some people can’t handle it, which is why I trust them less. I don’t think that I could ever betray someone because I know what it feels like, and let me tell you, it isn’t fun! I think, like I said before, that pressure and some various circumstances (life/death/popularity/attention…) would make people betray others.

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NickB said...

I would have to say I trust my family with a 10, because they would never tell anyone anything.

My next level of trust is myself and my coaches. I’ll give myself a 9 because I’m so impulsive; you never know when you can spill the beans. I put coaches up there because those are the people that I feel really lead kids through life. While teachers are teaching science, history and grammar usage, coaches have the job of teaching kids teamwork, togetherness, as well as character.

Then I trust my friends & teachers with a range of 8-6, depending on the subject matter and who the friend/teacher is.

The reason I rate my family above myself is I think when you tell someone a secret, they will hold it tighter than you do, in fear of loosing friendship. This also can make keeping a secret harder, since you keep it in mid all the time to make sure it doesn't slip.

I think if anyone ever betrayed me, it’d have to be because they wanted more attention, weren’t thinking, or just plain hated my guts. In all of these dilemmas, I would have to consider the kind of person they were, and how important I thought our friendship was.

Personally, I think I am very trustworthy. Now, I’m not just saying that to make myself feel good, I really mean it. Really as in someone would have to practically kill me to get a secret out of me. This is because I view trusting someone with a secret as sharing a piece of your soul with another person. This includes trusting someone with a task, too.

nicolek said...

When it comes to my family, I trust them completely. We all have a special bond with each other that is much harder to break than the bond of friendship. I know that my family will always love me so I trust them a ten.

But when it comes to my friends, that’s another story. I have a harder time trusting them because friendship is a bond that is easier to break. Once betrayed by one friend, it is so much harder to trust the others. But it depends on the friend, after a while I can trust a friend completely, but with people I don’t know that well because I don’t know if they would betray me or not.

I trust my teachers for the most part. I know that they are professionals and that they know how to deal with students and are usually very understanding. But my trust level with them also really depends on the teacher and what kind of connection I’ve made with them. I don’t think that any of my teachers would betray me.

The types of situations that make people betray their friends are when they have no other option. Like in Lord of the Flies when they were stripped down to basically nothing they ended up turning on each other and becoming more evil. Also, some people betray each other because they have the need to draw attention to them or are jealous. I think that it’s different for each person though.

Laurenc said...

I completely trust my family because I know I can tell them anything at all and they would believe me. My family would never tell anyone someone I didn't want them to hear unless it meant life or death for me. We don't keep secrets from eachother.

Most of my friends I would trust with anything. These are the close friends I often confide in when something is wrong. There are friends I don't trust as much and that is only because I don't know them as well. I think it is important to have strong friendships with people you can trust.

I was very close with a select few teachers in middle school. My music teacher especially and I would trust her with my life. Having adults other then your parents whom you trust and can easily talk to is very important in life because it helps you get an opinion or just talk with someone who is more experienced in life. As for my teachers now. I trust them with aspects concerning school but I don't know any of them well.

I think the only reason my family and friends would betray me is if I asked them to keep something secret that was harming myself or someone else. They would do this out of love so I don't think I would ever be mad at any of them.

I would betray them for the same reason they might betray me. If they were hurting themselves or others I would have to tell someone else even if they had asked me not to.

Situations that make people betray eachother are situations that may put someone in danger or sometimes more superficial reasons like self satisfaction or personal gain. It really depends on the person

stefo said...

i trust my friends on a scale of 1 to 10 to be around 8. There are some things that you have to keep private but you gotta have some one to talk to. With my family I would trust them to about an eight. Having triplet sisters I know that whatever I say can and will be used against me in the form of blackmail. Teachers I can trust to about the same extent as my friends because I know that they are there to help. I don’t believe that any one of my friends would betray my secrets even if we stopped being friends. Obviously I can trust my parents and when it really counts I know that I can trust my sisters to keep my secret. I would like to consider that I would never betray my friends but sometimes there are circumstances when someone needs to be told. But you can bet that I would never betray my friends secrets in a power struggle or any of the other reasons why people betray others. Situations that make others betray secrets are when that person thinks they will gain something from telling that secret. Whether it be in a gaining leverage in a fight or knowing that you will hurt your friend worse than your friend hurt you.

maddisonm said...

Trust is a powerful word. God is the one person that I could never doubt in trust. On a scale for 1-10 I trust my friends 9, unless they show me otherwise, my family 10, and my teachers 9.5. However there are different types of trusts with each relationship. Friendship trust is a trust of keeping secrets, trusting that they will be there for you and trusting that they will not lie to you. Family trust is more involved with love. Knowing that your family is there for you and that they would never leave your side. They would be honest to you and help you whenever you needed it. A place where you can come home and expect their presence and just tell them about your day. Teacher trust, I trust teachers in the sense that they give you a fair grade based on your work and the quality of it. Also, if they tell you something, they should stick to their word.
Betrayal. Everyone has been betrayed at one point in there life. I find it to be, however mostly involving my friends. Tthere has only been one main time where I have been betrayed. Where my so called friend has used me to get to be with people who are cooler. She has made up untrue things about me and some of my closest friends. My friend thought that she no longer needed friends like us, who were honest, and caring, but friends who made her look cooler. Friendships like that certainly aren't based on trust. I find that betrayal could really never come from your family, and I don't think teachers would betray a student. I don't think I would ever betray anyone unless there was a reason for it like catem said where someone could get hurt. Betrayal comes when someone fails or deserts you, especially in time of need. I think someone betrays another when they think it could put them in a better situation. Betrayal is really selfishness in disquise. It is the exact opposite of trust. I think that the type of situations where people would betray others is when they themselves would personally benefit from the betrayal. Betrayal is also way to bring someone else down and an attempt to bring yourself up.

kristenw said...

I know that i could definateley trust my close friend because i've known them a while.
I know i could trust my family because their my family and they've been through everything with me.
My teachers I think I'd have to know a while before I could trust them, but i know trusting a teacher is a good thing because then you know you can talk to them about anything.

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elisabethc said...

I completely trust my parents and I give them a 10 (which is the best) in the rating of trust. My siblings come in at a 9 because they are a little more flexible with what they share with others. I don't place all of my trust into certain friends and relatives but I still place a lot of trust in them so I give them an 8. Some of my friends that I have known for a long time are a 9. Sometimes my friends or relatives might spill what I tell them or they might talk about me behind my back which is usually where my trust gets severed. I also trust the majority of my teachers, so they get a rating from 7 to 10 depending on the teacher. I don't know some of my teachers very well yet so they have a lower rating. Most of the time Arapahoe has very high quality teachers and I am sure that they were hired because they are able to be trusted.
Sometimes some of my friends, family, or teachers might betray me. For example, if I confined a secret with them and they accidentally tell it to someone else I will not trust them as much in the future. Sometimes my friends might share a secret or share gossip about me if I do something to make them upset, which usually does not happen because we always try to make it work out all right.
I have never been in a life threatening situation that would cause me to betray a friend, so in other words, I would never betray a friend unless someone maybe tried to kill me or something. I really don't know because I have never been in that kind of situation before so I don't worry about it. Sometimes I might say something by accident or talk about someone behind their back, but that usually only occurs when I am upset with something that they do.
A lot of times people betray others for the exchange of other information or, perhaps, money. Sometimes in the real world people turn eachother in just for the sake of money. Also, people get betrayed a lot in life threatening situations. If someone threatens to kill you (and you know that they are not joking) then you are most likely going to tell them the secret about that person unless you are willing to die. Another situation is when a friend thinks another firend will be placed in danger by something that they are keeping a secret. The friend that was told that will most likely tell an adult because they are worried about their friends safety. Otherwise,if a person just betrayes you all the time then there is no reason to trust them at all.

mattf said...

On a scale of one to ten, ten being the lowest and ten the highest, I trust people around a seven. There are certain people that i tell more to because i know that they will keep their mouth shut. Others, however, can't always be trusted and I use some discretion in what I tell them. I trust my close friends at around an 8, and my acquaintances at about a 5 to 6. My family, I trust more. My parents: a ten. My brother: a 7. My sister: a four. My teachers seem to be able to keep students secrets and comments to themselves. Most of my previous teachers I trust completely. My teachers this year that I am still getting to know i am hesitant to share information. The people I trust may betray me bey letting something slip, on accident. This would probably be not intentional, but could happen. A discussion may be taking place and they just forget what they are saying and may let it slip. I may accidentally betray others when I forget that the secret is trusted with me, or I just let something come out that I didn't want to say. It wouldn't be intentional. Peer pressure is a big contributer to making people betray others. Other than that, the other is just by accident.

ZachH said...

On a scale of 1-10, one being the lowest and 10 being the highest, I trust people on average about a 8. I trust my friends about a 7. Some of my closer friends i trust more. I trust my parents a definate 10. Some of my previous teachers i trust more than others. I think in the right senario, my friends might let something slip about me. I would like to think that it would be on accident, but i know i have occasionally said something about a friend i probably shouldn't have. I don't think my parents would ever betray me, and if they did it would probably be for my own good (like to protect me or keep me safe, ect.) I know that most of my teachers don't say anything i have asked them not to i don't know my new teachers well enough to say yet.
I try very hard not to betray people. I have stories i don't want people to know, and i respect other peoples "secrets" too.
I think sometimes people betray others when they are talking to someone they trust. I think people will share others secrets with their own friends and not realize it isn't their story to tell.

mitchl. said...

on a scale of 1-10 ten being the best, i give my family an 8, because i can trust them very well, but my friends, i give a 6 because i don't know them as well as i know my family, and i give my teachers a 5 because i only see them for one class a day if that. i don't think that my family could betray me, but i am not sure about my teachers, but maybe my friends could betray me. My friends could betray me if i have a secret that no one knows, or i did something to them to be mad at me. I guess i could betray someone if i was mad at them. Life-thretening ones, or when someone needs to make a rash desicion.

nilec said...

on a scale of 1-10 i think i trust the people arond me a 8.i completly trust my family and teachers but my some of my friends aren't very trustworthy. if any of them were to betray me it would be one of my friends becuase at this age alot of kids betray their friends, its not that unusual. i wouldnt ever purposly betray a friend but i cant say that i would never betray them without realizing it at first. situations like the ones we dide skits on in class and other situations that involve making a decision that could hurt someone else are situations that can lead to betrayal.

DawnielleN said...

I would say an 8 for trust for friends. As far as trust goes I constantly have to remind my self that complete trust is a lot to ask of a person. We are only human and telling a friend a secret and then expecting them not to let it slip on accident is a lot to ask. At the same time I do expect friends to try their very best not to tell and not plan on damaging the trust between us. I doubt that any person could tell you that they have never told a friend’s secret. I do however, have different expectations for family. When I have something to tell someone I always tell my family first and I would trust them to keep it to them selves because they would know how important it was to me. I would give family a 10.

I trust my teachers for one reason: I think they have good judgment when it comes to keeping things confidential or not. For example, if someone told their teacher about something drug or alcohol related the teacher needs to tell someone.

As far as my expectations for others I really wish people could have the same expectations I explained for me. I am not a gossip and I most definitely would never deliberately do something to jeopardize the trust but I am human. I can only think of few times when I have done something to jeopardize trust. In time I think friends should forgive each other and not expect sooo much. And if that means not trusting that person so much in the future then so be it. Secrets, jealousy, family situations, and egos are few of the many things that I have seen friends and family betray each other.

kristenw said...

I didn't get to finish so, anyway the people that I consider my best friends I know would hopefully never betray me because we have a huge trust between us. I believe the only reason I would betray my friends is if I didn't realize it. I think situations that make people betray others could be money, succes, and popularity.

Javonm said...

Last time i tried to post it this didn't work but here is basically what I said. I said that i think that people need to earn trust from you by showing good charcacter and respect for who you are and your feelings. After doing this they basically understand what problems you tend to get into so you can discuss the problems with them in confidece. I think when a trust relationship is built it most go both ways though or it isn't a real relationship. I would ave to say I trust my parents and teachers the most because they never lie to me, and if they say they will do something then they follow through with it. Friends are amazing and are a very important part of my life, but they are less trustworthy cause they won't always be there for you like your parents will.

josed said...

Personally, I try to trust everyone, on a scale of one to ten, with ten being the highest and one being the lowest, at around a five. I trust my friends at a nine, because usually people consider me their friends but I only consider people who have been there when I needed support my friends. This usually makes other people trust me more than I do them, but I still like to trust everyone, but my true friends are the people who I confide my feelings in the most, so I trust them a ton. I trust my family at a 10, and if I could, an 11. I have trusted my life to them on numerous occasions: they have literally pulled me out of a house in the middle of an earthquake. I can tell them anything and it will be an airtight secret. I usually try to be a friend to my teachers, so I can trust them at a nine and some to a ten. Obviously, they have to tell some things to the school so I don't tell them my private life or use certain expressions with them, but some teachers have even told me some things against school policy, that could threaten their jobs. I don't think they could ever betray me, even though I have betrayed some of my closest friends. I don't ever betray my friends but these were extreme cases where they were about to do something they could end up regretting for the rest of their lives. As previous bloggers have stated, torture could make people betray each other, but I also think cash could have the same effect. Bribing someone for information, par example. But subtle manipulation might make someone accidentally betray someone else, like by stressing them slowly so it slips completely because they weren't thinking straight, or drugging could be used... anyway, I'd just like to say do not try that at home and I have not tried that, I read about it. Moving on, I also think that by turning people against each other they could betray each other. Truly, man is an untrusting being and rising above that takes mettle, but it can lead to many dissapointments. Every betrayal makes it easier for oneself to betray.

LeslieL said...

Wow Stephanie you’re a triplet??? That’s cool! Only not when they blackmail you of course. But for me, I would have a 10 for my family because I’ve grown up with them and if they knew that my secret was really important to me they wouldn’t tell anyone. My friends, however, would be closer to a 5. I only have maybe one or two friends who really wouldn’t tell anyone my secret if I asked them to. I find that when a big secret is told to somebody that they go off and tell one person “ok so I’ll tell you but you have to promise not to tell anyone!” and then that person goes off and says the same thing to one more person and by the end of the day the secret is not longer secret.

Surprisingly, I trust my teachers pretty well (like around a 9) because I feel like they are obliged to keep secrets of their students. Unless it was a huge and terrible secret that had to do with that student being in harm, then I know that they would keep it. I’ve always grown up trusting teachers and I don’t think I’ve ever been betrayed by one so that’s probably the reason I trust them.

I know that I have been betrayed by my friends because being a girl (yes stereotype) I know that girls tend to gossip A LOT. And I don’t think that anyone has ever betrayed me on purpose, just that they have let things slip because they’ve been so used to being so open with each others friends. I think in the same way, I have done the same to them with secrets that they never told me to keep secret which usually made me think that they didn’t mind that I told people. A life lesson coming in place: because of the drama I had one time with this same mistake I always ask if people want me to keep their secret secret, or if they don’t care if I share it with other people. So now I feel like I’m considerably good at keeping secrets because of that and I don’t really find it very hard either!

I agree with stefanf with the situations that people betray people because all of those aspects do contribute to betrayal.

kristinah said...

I didn't get to add this in class but you can sometimes trust someone with the information but you don't feel comfortable telling those things to the person because it would just be acward or maybe they just wouldn't understand or maybe they would make weird or rude comments or something like that. Because I am like hannah in the way that I tend to trust a lot of people until they give me a reason not to trust them because then it is hard for me to get myself to trust them with something important again. Even if they did break the promise or what ever on accident.

maddieh said...

I trust all of my friends differently. They may be a one or a ten but that doesn't matter because they are still my friends. I think trust depends on several things: the situation, the person, and the secret itself. Sometimes secrets are just too big to tell anyone, even if they should be told. I know from experience that secrets can explode in your face sometimes and things can turn out badly. Sometimes when secrets come out, it can ruin friendships. People are also a huge part of trustworthiness. You should only tell someone a secret if you want to. You really should not be forced into anything like that. Personally, I can't trust that easily. I used to trust everyone but I'm more cautious now since things went very badly from me placing too much trust in others. I still trust people but now you have to work for my trust. From expeirance, I can say that I have seen my friends betray me but I know that from other's perspectives I have probabally betrayed them. Not to say I'm untrustworthy, but I do slip up some times. Overall, though, I would say I'm pretty trustworthy. Situations in which people betray eachother could be anything. Maybe if someone promised not to say that their friend is self-hurting themselves or is abused by someone, then I think they should betray that promise because it's better for the person involved. Situations that you shouldn't tell secrets would be petty things, like crushes or strange habits, because life goes on if that secret is told or not. I honestly just think trust depends on more than just the secret. You can still be good friends, even if you don't confide totally in eachother.

ParkerH said...

I know that I trust my friends differently, and it usually depends on how close we are. There is no way that I would say some things to certain friends but that I have already said them to other friends. Generally, I think my trust level is somewhere around 6-7

beckyg said...

I trust my friends pretty well. I completely trust my family, and I trust my teachers pretty well also. I think it really depends on whether they are trustworthy, and have proven that to me. Some people are definately more trustworthy than others, and I think a really good friend would not betray that trust if they knew that you really did not want them to. Like MelissaZ said, I feel comfortable telling people certain things. The things I tell different people will probably be different. Different people are different, and although someone may be a lot of fun to hang out with, they may not be the person I can share my secrets with. I don't think people betray others purposly for the most part, but it all comes back to human nature and some one just might be more prone to "spill the beans". Most people are good, and I try to surround myself with people that will be true friends. If someone will willing betray my trust I don't think they are a very good person to share imformation with, or maybe even to be friends with. I think I am very trustworthy, and I would never betray someones trust purposely, unless it was an extreme situation, and I had no other options.

beckyg said...

Oops. I forgot the last part of the question. Situations that make people betray others' trust are often human nature. We are not perfect, and sometimes, we slip up, and might let something slide. Some people might also be tempted by peer pressure, if everyone told someone to they might think it was okay. This is not right. People should never purposely betray trust, because it is very important to have people you can trust.

ashleyf said...

i very much agree and disagree with almost everyone. Brianc, you said that you trust yourself and your parents the most. i also trust myself, i don't think I'm that afraid of many things because i trust myself to get out of a bad situation.
but when it comes to parents, i've found there are 2 kinds of trust, one my parents have which is to be parents, i trust they would do anything for me. but secrets, can only be kept between friends.
Though, as you said Maddiem,the worst and most frequent times you get betrayed is by your friends. It seems that whatever you say will come back around, no matter what. it's inevitable. because everyone has more than one best friend, you tell your one friend, they will tell thier one friend, and its an endless cycle. so in the lng run, i trust people in general, about a 3 or 4.
It's when you get those few friends who you've been through so much with who will keep your secret and will always have your trust, out of pure respect for you.

ashleyf said...

Hey sorry, just read yours Maddieh and jsut wanted to say that trust really has been a big thing in our lives within these past years. it sucks that its blown chances of trusting many other people, but like you said life goes on

aaronw said...

my last post didn't work so this is what i said...
i used to trust more people higher up the scale, like at an 8 probably. the people that i know i would trust at a 6 or 7. strangers are usually a 4-5. i do not completely trust my friends unfourtunately, because of issues in the past. i trust my family at like 10.5. and i used to trust teachers at an 8 until a certain one (does Mr.Bliss ring a bell to anyone) :( ya he kinda ruined that trust there. i know that some of my friends would betray me because they have before... but not lately...
i wouldn't like to think that i could betray them. but there is always that chance that i might...
I thought of an example...
i was picking my fantasy football team (i know im soooo cool) and it came to quarterback. Jay Cutler, the broncos qb, was one i could pick from. and i asked myself if i trusted Jay to do good... cause he may not. But i had the confidence in him.
also, i'm very christian. and a main part of christianity i believe(i'm not not trying to affend anyone) is faith and trust, and i would elaborate, but this isn't a bible study...

meganu said...

On a scale of 1-10, I trust my family and friends at about an 8. I trust my teachers at about a 5 or 6. I have usually known my family and friends for a while so I know I can trust them more than just any person around me. My teachers I haven't known as long so I don't trust them as much. I don't think my family or teachers would betray me but I have had a lot of friends betray me in the past. When my friends betray me, they really betray me because I trust my friends a lot and if they stab me in the back, it hurts. I have lost a lot of close friends to betrayal. I don't think I could ever betray my friends unless they go behind my back and say or do something that I don't like. If that happens, it would be easier for me to betray them. Betrayal between people happens when people get annoyed with eachother and then they start saying things behind their backs. Then it makes it easier for people to get meaner and meaner to eachother and betray them.

SerenaL said...

On a scale of 1-10, 10 being complete trust and 1 being a drop or two of trust, I trust most people a 4. I have a lot of friends that I don’t trust very much, and a few of my friends I trust a lot. There are probably only 3 people that I trust with a 10. One girl, and two guys. It is easier to trust guys because they aren’t really back stabbers, that’s more of a girl thing. Guys aren’t as sympathetic though. Sympathy isn’t always what I need though.

I trust my family on an average 6. I know my family wouldn’t betray me, but I never really talk to them. If I want to talk about a problem then I go to a friend, not a family member. Teachers are the same. They would probably be trustworthy but I have never trusted a teacher before. Well I have but not anymore. I know what Aaron W is talking about with Mr. Bliss. Teachers wouldn’t betray you unless you count telling your parents about something as betrayal.

Betrayal, wow I have a lot to say about that but I don’t think anyone would want to read a 10 page blog. I’ll sum it up. My trust is only earned by a few people. My motto is trust no one, not even yourself. When I was in middle school, I was really open with trust and I would trust anyone, all of my friends and even random people I had just met. That changed though, a few people broke my trust, and I took back every trust that I had ever given to anyone. Those couple of years changed my whole view on the world and other people. I pretty much started over with my trust, and I gave it out as if there was only so much in the world and it needs to be rationed. It only takes one betrayal to realize the dangers of trust. I think I have betrayed a few people over my years. I have never done it on purpose though. Usually I am just fuming at something and I let a secret slip out to the wrong person and then boom, I lose a friend. I think most betrayals are from misunderstanding, miscommunication, or accidents. You never know what you will say. Maybe you don’t even realize that you weren’t supposed to say anything. But breaking a trust can easily be on purpose as well, which is why I am so careful with it. I try to get to know people and see whether they are trustworthy before I trust them more willingly.

alexd said...

On a scale of 1- 10 I would trust my friends with about a 6. Its not like I don’t trust them but I just know that teenagers have a hard time of keeping their mouths shut sometimes, I can trust them with a lot of stuff but not with some. Actually there are about two friends in my life that I would actually trust like an 8. I would trust my family with a 10 because i always know that they are there for me and they care about me. I would trust my teachers with an 8 because they are adults and are mature enough to trust.

Sadly yes I do think that some of my friends would betray me. I don’t think that if it was really important they would. But if it was just a little thing I think they would.

Yes I think that I have betrayed some people in the past but when I felt that I did I went and apologized to them. Also I am trying not to do that anymore because I know how much it hurts.

I think when people wan t something really bad they will do anything to get it. So I think that people will betray other people when they are being selfish and just watching out for themselves.

Sarcasticinsaneteenager said...

On a scale of 1-10, I trust my friends at a 10, only because I choose them carefully.
For my family, an 8.5 because they can't really always tell the truth... for our sake.
I trust my teachers on a 10 because, well, they're my teachers.

katyj said...

I dont really trust many people at all, so i would say on a scale of 1 - 10, i would give myself a 4.
I trust my true friends, and only those who i know to be my true friends, but i put a little bit of trust in people i just know.
My family each knows a different part of me. some things i tell everyone, but most of the time i tell omne thing to evry member of my family, so they each only get part of the picture.
My teachers i trust in a different way. I trust that they will do thier best to challenge me, and make me a better person academically.
I don't think anyone of the people i know would betray me, but there are many situations that i have not encountered so i don't really know.
It depends on the situation as to whwether or not i could betray my friends. if it was a matter of thier safety and well being, then yes i probably would betray them.
Any kind of situation can make one person betray another, so there is no particular type of betrayal causing situations.